No he is not , its a Love Story.
I love Love stories ..
so please tone it down with the assumptions please ..
Ken, Please go on ... we are enjoying your Journey ..
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I love Love stories ..
so please tone it down with the assumptions please ..
Ken, Please go on ... we are enjoying your Journey ..
Hi Bob,
You're talking about your wife's mother (MNIL). That is not the same as a couple of aunts or cousins. I will make it very clear that I would be living with her and her children and not supporting her other relatives.
Ken needs an agent. You North Coast guys need to steer him up that way for some real love on the Pedro Clisante!
You should go to Sosua and surely a couple of the DR1 folks can you help you out. We just want to sure that when you leave you have at least 1 pair of shoes and your gold watch.
You should go to Sosua and surely a couple of the DR1 folks can you help you out. We just want to sure that when you leave you have at least 1 pair of shoes and your gold watch.
Hey guys.. hope you are all enjoying this,. And yes, maybe I'm a hopeless romantic...but I believe in destiny....I believe what crosses your path in life is not by chance. Here's the scoop.
I was "happily" married and decided to go to a resort in the DR. (I normally travel the world and of all my Caribbean visits DR had always been my least favorite).
But I decide at the last minute to do a week vacay in DR because it was the only place available.
I'm doing the omelet routine every morning and next to the station there is a woman dispensing potatoes, bacon, etc. She is all masked up and not particularly attractive. Every day I see her and say dos papas or whatever. We always make solid eye contact and I am very polite always thanking her in spanish. Since I have been studying Spanish for many years I was looking for someone that I could learn colloquial Spanish. On my last day I asked for her email and phone number.
I asked if she was casado o tenia un novio. She said No so I felt it was OK to continue our "relationship" when I got home. I asked her for a hug goodbye and she said yes and it was a very casual hug since she was at work.
For some reason I was drawn to this woman... who I only knew by her name tag. And the most amazing thing is that I have NEVER been attracted to dark skin women. As a matter of fact I usually look the other way.. But I can look at this woman's picture, with zero makeup, without a smile, all day long.
We only promised each other to say good morning and good night every day... Which we did... Even though I was in different parts of the world. A casual friendship became more over a period of time. I told her that if we were still together come Christmas (2021) that I would get her a bracelet and clothes for her children. I sent her some cash and she got the bracelet she wanted (and also bought in a pair of earrings along the way which I hadn't authorized but I didn't make a fuss about it.
I know she wants me to buy her a house so that we could all live together. She prays for this every night, If I do go down and eventually buy a house it will be in my name. I haven't told her that because it is too far off my radar right now. I don't know how she would react. She has be cheated on by the father of her children and that is why she left him 10 years ago.
Anyways, here we are one year later.
Why many of you so cynical. You don't know of any poor DR women who met men with means and ended up in a happy relationship.
Doesnt work that way. There is always an aunt needing meds....etc. I take my MIL older sister to the clinic at least once a month, and she has a son with two cars that lives within a mile. She fortunately doesnt require money as her daughter and two sons in New York send her money. Whenever we go to the campo to visit relatives on my wife's fathers side, we know that will be more money, but those good people ask for nothing and would give you their last meal. Different breed of people than most modern Dominicans, poor but proud. My wife was reasonably well do do by the time we met.
Having 30 years of experience in the DR and being married to a Dominican woman.................
To quote the title of the thread;
"I found this hard to believe."
Wishing out loud CCCCCcccc was still with us to comment..................
Respectfully,
Playacaribe2
To quote the title of the thread;
"I found this hard to believe."
Wishing out loud CCCCCcccc was still with us to comment..................
Respectfully,
Playacaribe2
Many moons ago there was a member who penned a blog on these boards about his adventures marrying a nurse in Villa Mella. Now that was entertaining. He kept us waiting with bated breath for the next installment. I think he was an artist or photographer?
DanDuva.
CCCCCcccc dispensed some classic lines in that one.
Dans posts were entertaining albeit with some artistic license thrown in.
Respectfully,
Playacaribe2
OP you continue with these threads, which I see many find entertaining. Because you continue to post threads about this relationship it is clear you are troubled by it. So, I will play along with you. Why not do the decent thing and divorce your wife before going any further? Or is it that you seriously question the "honesty" of this Dominican woman and want to make sure that you do not lose something you already have (wife) until your 100% sure? I would have trouble starting a relationship with a man who was still married. But then again, I guess it would depend on what the woman is looking for.
First off I hope you are a woman
Of course I am troubled by it.
You never leave your marriage for another woman. You leave your marriage because the latter is damaged.
She does have trouble with that fact I am married... But I told her, in complete truth, that my marriage was bad before she came across my path.
Obviously I cannot be 100% sure until we are together for a while. She has been upfront with me what she wants. She has never tried to pull me away from my wife and actually feels badly for her. She wants to own her own house and a car. At least she is being honest with me.
My wife isn't going to allow me to go down for a try and buy. And yes, I am in a predicament. And yes, it is very painful for me.
The only reason I reluctantly share this information with this forum is that I was looking for some insight into life in the DR.
I am very disheartened by all the negative comments. Why is it no possible for a woman in need to fall in love with a gringo, who albeit has money, but also treats her with respect, equality, concern for her family, emotional support and attentiveness to her needs?
I am not trying to be funny when I say this ,
If you truly have NOT slept with this Dominican Woman, and your Marriage is/ Was truly doomed anyway, as you say ,
If you ask for a Separation from your Wife BEFORE you pursue this .. I honestly dont think you are doing ANYTHING wrong, and NO one should be preaching to you otherwise .. Its your Life . you deserve to pursue your Happiness .. As Harsh as it sounds it does not matter if your Wife still says she Loves YOU , YOU also have to Love your Wife .. and IF that is totally GONE .. you should not torture yourself .
Women who no longer love their Husbands do NOT stay because HE loves her.. so dont fall for that Krap in reverse .
You gave her 29 years , if you are truly miserable ,, get out and pursue this new one .. in Fact Explore the Whole Country .
This may be a big Eye Opener for you. Just dont go all in just yet .
If you truly have NOT slept with this Dominican Woman, and your Marriage is/ Was truly doomed anyway, as you say ,
If you ask for a Separation from your Wife BEFORE you pursue this .. I honestly dont think you are doing ANYTHING wrong, and NO one should be preaching to you otherwise .. Its your Life . you deserve to pursue your Happiness .. As Harsh as it sounds it does not matter if your Wife still says she Loves YOU , YOU also have to Love your Wife .. and IF that is totally GONE .. you should not torture yourself .
Women who no longer love their Husbands do NOT stay because HE loves her.. so dont fall for that Krap in reverse .
You gave her 29 years , if you are truly miserable ,, get out and pursue this new one .. in Fact Explore the Whole Country .
This may be a big Eye Opener for you. Just dont go all in just yet .
Ah,that's not inconditional love. AND if you "LOVED her" why only phone calling daily. You don't trust her, right? Do you think you have posted anything here that 99.0 % of the ppl on this board haven't heard millions of times. Who is crazier you or wife #1. I hope I'm not being rude but YOU came to an open mic and sang your love song. I really want to tell you, you can't sing a note. Wrong audience. IMO is spend your money on a shrink...you'll feel better soon. Best of luck to you . I'm out as I do not believe this story any longer. Good luck with your love tale. Bye bye Romeo.
In 30 years, I can count the number of times on one hand that I heard.....................that "she" left him.
On the other hand, I do not have enough fingers, toes, or hair follicles to count the number of times that he left her..........or never even resided together to begin with.
Unfortunately that is the cultural history of relationships in the DR. And it is not just confined to the lower socio-economic classes..........although it seems more prevalent.
I really wish you could read some of the sage advice given in the past on this board. The old board would have been a treasure trove of useful information for you. And yes the bulk of it was negative, not all....but most...............totally realistic.........and perhaps eye-opening.
Good luck.
Respectfully,
Playacaribe2
JD..I really appreciate some wisdom coming forth rather than raucous comments.
I would not say my marriage is doomed but this DR relationship didn't help. My wife is fighting for me and wants to work on our marriage. She knows I have an extremely strong connection to this woman.... and there has been no physical contact...which in my mind only reinforces that my love isn't driven by my little head. I do long to be with her but that would be the catalyst for the immediate end of my marriage and I am not sure I want that yet.
You are 1000% correct... you have to love the person that loves you.. and not out of guilt.
My wife wants us to work on our marriage and while this is happening she wants me to have zero contact with the DR woman whom I love without doubt.
I asked for a separation but she would only give it to me if I promised not to go to DR.
I know this woman is not anywhere on the same socioeconomic, intellectual wavelength as I am. But that really doesn't matter. I am drawn to her resilience, her intestinal fortitude, her loyalty, When I mention the disparity in age..40 years... and when i tell her that I have maybe 10 more active years and I don't want to burden her, she replies I would never be considered a burden and that she would care for me.
I will send you a private conversation as to what I am probably going to do
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