That's a huge age difference. The bigger the age difference, the more likely the other person is in for a benefit. Men often can get away with a bigger age difference than women, but 40 years+?That's pushing it way too far.
Of course a Dominican can love a gringo. I am Dominican and my ex was a gringo that I loved very much. I actually had so much more in common with him than with my current bf, who is Dominican. We Liked the same music, the same type of food, enjoyed traveling, etc. But we were about the same age, I already had a visa, and no kids, so wasn´t looking for someone as child support. My mother had a business ,and my sibblings jobs, and supported themselves, so I wasn't looking to support my family either. They didn't even want me to be with a gringo.
Think about what she sees in you. Perhaps being with you is a sacrifice she's willing to make. She's going to take one for the team, and help her loved ones out of poverty. That doesn't men she's a bad person. God knows what she's been through. After all, she is a mother, and must be looking for stability, and a positive father figure for her kids. And hey, it´s not that you're being selfless etiher, you must be enjoying the fact that you can have someone younger and prettier than you wife, and they both want you. Dos mujeres, un camino! There is some vanity in there. I don't see you as a good samaritan or a victim either. If you want to "help her", you could do that as a friend.
